Why we fail; have you noticed your To-Do List is failing.
It is 10 pm in the night, I am planning to sleep, but before ending my day I always write down to-do lists for tomorrow. I pen down all day goals for tomorrow so that I don’t forget in the hustle-bustle of the day. It generally looks like this,
- Do exercise, 22 crunches
- Write 300 words
- Cook lunch
- Learn Programming (Asp.net tutorials)
- Write notes on the ONE-NOTE app
- Review old notes
- Read 20 min
- Practices touch typing inspired by blog Quit Slow Typing.
Every day I complete all tasks of my to-do list but one task is a real struggle for me, it is Learn programming.
So why am failing in programming? Why I lack practice in learning tutorials? What’s the reason behind self-inflicted failure? Why I feel confident enough to get it done? Why am I filled with fears and negative thoughts? Why I always put programming for later-on?
Maybe am voluntarily doing it because sometimes I fell am doing it against my will. I know it’s a bad idea but I do it anyway. Deep down I always want to be a programmer (An Asp.net developer) and find a suitable job at my favorite software house. But we all fail or in the middle of failing something. But why do we fail? Let’s go below to find reasons for failing. Read them, avoid doing them and stay blessed.
WE FAIL BECAUSE WE ARE NOT PERSISTENT
Meaning of persistence: Continuing firmly, non-stop or continuous.
Did you know NASA failed 20 out of 28 times in the attempt of sending a rocket to space? Now ask yourself how many times have you tried?
We usually give up too soon about things we are passionate about. And if you read stories of successful people you will find a history of long struggle and persistence in accomplishing everyday tasks or to-do lists.
HAVE YOU NOTICED YOU ARE TOO DISTRACTED BY THINGS
WE ARE TOO DISTRACTED BY OUR THINGS THAT WE OFTEN FAIL
Instagram, Facebook, Newsfeed, YouTube videos, WhatsApp friends videos, WhatsApp memes and list goes long.
As we all know when we are driving, seeing somewhere else is highly forbidden and dangerous. You can lose your concentration from the road. Just like that if you will keep watching someone with better jobs, a better body, a better lifestyle, better money. You will lose concentration from your road of goals and achievements.
Small tip: your goals are always about you and you becoming astoundingly better in it. So don’t stay distracted.
DON’T LET BLAME GAME SCARE YOU ANYMORE
WE FAIL BECAUSE WE PLAY BLAME GAME & WON’T TAKE RESPONSIBILITY OF OUR FAULTS
One must be careful about his plans to reach his goals and be realistic in it. Always take responsibility for whatever you failed in your life. Once you start doing that future is yours. Do these 3 things,
- Stop blaming others
- When you succeed be thankful and proud of yourself
- Face your failures courageously
FAILING BECAUSE OF LESS-CONFIDENCE OR FATILISTIC ATTITUDE
We often fail due to poor self-esteem. It is also known as lacking self-confidence or self-worth. Someone who doesn’t believe in his own self and is filled with doubts, succeeding at goals will be nearly impossible.
Stop thinking negatively about yourself, boast yourself up, and grow confidence each day. Forgive yourself for failures you faced, if you might fail at something; think yourself as a struggler instead of failure. Also start believing that failure is a necessity for success.
“Every expert in every field is the result of around ten thousand hours of committed practice.” ~The Talent Code
A fatalistic behavior will put failure/success in the hands of luck. The fatalistic person will blindly accept faith regardless of hard work & efforts. It is a fact we might not have control over everything of life, but you do have more control then you realize.
FAILING BECAUSE YOU THINK SUCCESS IS NOT RIGHTFULLY YOURS
Many people think they don’t deserve to be successful. Maybe their teachers, friends or parents teased them a lot or whatever reasons. As a result, we feel guilty for accomplishing too many great things in life. They also think succeeding like a fraud or sinful. Listen to this conversation with my friend Aqsa.
When I asked her about why she left trying for the job she said,
Firstly I think like my father said “Women’s who earn more makes their husband useless and they start depending on their husband.”
Secondly, she thinks,
“Her husband needs her help in his business and she felt guilty leaving him alone and go separate ways and do the job.”
Doubts will always find a reason to ruin your plans of success and that’s reality. It’s only you and yourself who can overcome barriers of doubts. It will be a little painful and gutsy but surely success will kiss your feet.